Things about people you would like to change

I went to a very small primary school (40 or so children) so you had to pretty much get on with everyone. However there were a couple of kids there that I really didn't like so I used to spend a lot of my time imagining if they changed (or left the school) then everything would be better. Of course they didn't change and they didn't leave the school.

Then in high school there were again a couple of (different) children that I didn't get along with and again I wished they would change.

It took me a while to realise that just because I could identify what they needed to do to be 'better' didn't mean that it was going to happen and that I was going to go through life coming across people I didn't get along with and that I needed to develop strategies to deal with this.

A better question for me would have been: 'what would others say if they could change one thing about me?'.

This is an interesting perspective. First you have to step away from yourself and look at who you are and what and how you do things from someone else's eyes. What would they want to change about you?

Try it out - you may come up with some interesting results!